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Mifepristone..."The Abortion Pill": The Facts

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Mifepristone..."The Abortion Pill": The Facts

Sujatha Sebastian

On September 28, 2000 the Food and Drug Administration after several years of research approved Mifepristone, better known as the "abortion pill", for distribution in the United States. The FDA's decision will have a definite impact on women's health care in the United States. There will be social and medical repercussions. The drug has caused controversy not only in antiabortion groups, but in Pro-Choice groups as well. Critics are worried that an abortion available in pill form will be "too easy". They are worried that use of the pill will be abused. What many people do not realize is that while Mifepristone will be beneficial to women's health care, it is not without side effects. In light of all the recent coverage that the "abortion pill" has been given in the media, and all the misinformation surrounding it, I decided researching that Mifepristone would be interesting and helpful. The purpose of my paper is to discover how Mifepristone works, how it is administered, and to look at its side effects. I want to demonstrate the benefit Mifepristone will be to women's health care, while showing that it is not an "easy" solution to abortion.

"Mifepristone, formerly known as RU-486, is a medical alternative to aspiration abortion."(1) It works by blocking progesterone from being absorbed into the uterus. When this happens the uterus sheds the endometrium (lining in the uterus, therefore inducing menstruation. (2 When Mifepristone is used as a method for abortion is it administered as part of a three step process. The first step is that 200 mg of Mifepristone is given orally in a doctor's office. Then within 24 to 48 hours the patient is given 400 mg a drug called Misoprostol either orally or in a suppository form. Misoprostol, which is a synthetic hormone, is used to get the cervix to soften and dilate as well as getting the uterus to relax. The embryo is then expelled.(2) This is supposed to happen approximately fours hours after the administration of the drug. The final step is an examination by a medical professional to make sure the abortion is complete. (2)

There are restrictions as to who can use this medical method of abortion. It is only intended for women to use up to nine weeks after their last menstruation period. Women who are under 18 or over 35, epileptic, diabetics, or suffering from heart, lung, kidney, liver, stomach or intestinal disorders are ineligible. As are women who have taken steroids within the past 12 months, or deemed overweight or a heavy smoker. Women who have used an IUD or hormonal contraceptive within three months prior to conception are not allowed to take Mifepristone as well.(2)

Like any drug or medical method there are side effects to using Mifepristone and Misoprostol. It is the number of side effects and degree of each that critics argue about. The FDA has determined that taking Mifepristone does cause various degrees of pain. Short term physical effects can be pelvic pain, vaginal bleeding, nausea, diarrhea, and fatigue.(2) There are psychological side effects as well. In some cases products of the conception are visualized. (3)

The use of Mifepristone will have a definite impact on reproductive freedom in this country and the world. (3) It is seen as less invasive procedure which gives the woman more freedom and privacy. In the United States it has been reported by the Alan Guttmacher Institute that eighty-nine percent of the abortions occur in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy. Mifepristone will allow women another option to terminate a pregnancy in its early stages. (2) Twenty-four percent of the world's population lives in places where abortion is not legal. (3) As a result a significant population of women perform their own abortions or receive illegal abortions which kills them. The medical method of abortion would allow women in these areas of the world to receive a safe method of abortion.

A major issue that critics of Mifepristone have is that they feel that the drug will allow abortions to become "too easy". But the drug is only administered in a medical office and requires at least three visits. The last visit is an examination to see that the abortion is complete and that the mother is in good health. Before the patient is given Mifeprex tablets (Mifepristone) she must sign an agreement in which she acknowledges that there are side effects, that there is a three step process, and that 5 to 8 women out of every hundred do not have successful medical abortions and need surgical abortions . (5) Critics worry that the drug will cause an increase in the number of women who have abortions. Supporters of the drug cite the fact that in France, where the drug is manufactured and was first administered, there has not been an increase in the abortion rate. (2)

Mifepristone will change the way that abortions are administered. This method gives a woman more autonomy and does not require her to go through surgical procedure. It can also prevent pregnancy by taken as soon as a day after she has had intercourse. This new method will allow more women to have access to safe abortions. Mifepristone opens the door to a new area of medicine in which previously surgical procedures are now approached in a medical manner. Whether in support of or against Mifepristone one has to recognize the new technology the drug represents.

One of the problems I had when researching information was finding unbiased information. Both pro and anti Mifepristone groups used "research" and statistics to their benefit. Distinguishing the difference between opinion and fact was difficult. This is especially true because there is not a lot of accurate information about Mifepristone published by reliable sources. This is due to the fact that Mifepristone has just recently been approved by the Food and Drug Administration. Mifepristone that will be beneficial to women's health care and medicine. But one must realize that it is not without side effects and cannot be seen as an "easy" solution to abortion.

 

WWW Sources

1)www.plannedparenthood.org/mifepristone.html, Mifepristone

2)www.rascalnut.com/naral.ohio/RU486.html, The Facts about Mifepristone (RU 486)

3)www.mja.com.au/public/issues/sep15/henshaw/henshaw.html, Mifepristone

4)http://jinx.sis.unsw.edu.au/~greenlft/1994/137/137p28htm, "Abortion Pill": A Woman's Right to Choose by, Kath Gelber

5)www.popcouncil.orgrhpdev/mifeprex/patient%5Fagreement.html,The Patient Agreement Mifeprex (Mifepristone) Tablets

6) www.pages.map.com/lroberge/ru486.htm, RU486: The Hidden Effects by Lawrence F. Roberge

6) www.nrlc.org/ru486/propsedFDAregs.html, RU486 *Please note that some of the sources read during my research were from biased sources (the National Right to Life Committee web site for example). Facts were not used from these sources in my paper. These sources were instead used to discover the arguments anti-Mifepristone groups had and to see the false information they were publishing about the drug.

 

 

Continuing conversation
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08/06/2005, from a Reader on the Web

I took that pill and almost blead to death now i have have to say it's not as easy as it sounds it is very painful like child birth but more blooder atleast for me i now have endromitrious and may have to have my women parts removed i had nothing before i took those pills i'm 37 so i'm just saying better think it out before you take it because it's dangerious i have a son who is 18 it was easier for me to have him then go through childbirth than taking those pills becuse i'm still not well and it has been 7 months


10/10/2005, from a Reader on the Web

For what it's worth, I though I'd share my personal experience using Mifepristone almost a month ago.. After having made the difficult choice to abort, I learned of this pill as an alternative option to having the traditional surgical procedure. Of course, as anyone would, I opted to try the pill because it seemed -less- painful and was something I could do in the privacy of my own home. After having been given the first pill, Mifepristone, at the doctors office on a Friday afternoon, I finished out my day at work with minimal side-effects at that point. The Mifepristone made me slightly sick to my stomach, but compared to the ongoing morning sickness I'd been going through, it wasn't so bad. (ha ha) Misoprostol was the next step, given to me in the form of 4 tablets, to be inserted vaginally myself at home. I was also given a full bottle of Vicodin, as well as a bottle of 800mg Ibuprophen for the pain the doctor anticipated I would encounter (this worried me a little). Late Satuday afternoon, I'd say around 4:30pm, scared to death not knowing what to expect once everything started, and knowing I couldn't turn back now, I inserted the tablets and took 1 Vicodin as directed. About 30 minutes from the time I did this I began to have cramping comparable to what you would feel during a typical menstrual period.. but not for long. Within an hour I had severe cramping.. I'd been warned the pain could equal that of actual child-birth contractions, and this must have been it. (I've never had a child, so I can only imagine) I was to the point of feeling like I would pass out if the pain didn't let up when I passed the first, and largest, portion of what -was- the pregnancy.. Many people will tell you that all you'll see is blood and clots, and it's unlikely anything will look like actual tissue.. but mine sure did.. Large masses of gray tissue were expelled for the following numerous hours. Somewhere close to midnight that night I felt relief enough to know it was over.. or so I thought. 4 days after this, while I -should- have been feeling more or less back to normal, I began to experience increasing pain in my abdomen. I called and spoke with my doctor about this, but felt as though she didn't seem concerned at all. No more than 2 hours after hanging up the phone I developed a fever that shot through the roof out of nowhere, and my heart began beating unbelieveably TOO fast. The "increasing pain" in my abdomen now had me laying in bed, hardly able to move. I called my mother who left work and rushed to my home to get me. I couldn't even get out of bed to let her in when she arrived I hurt so bad. I ended up in the emergency room that afternoon with a heartbeat of 143 beats/min.. (Check your own and then you'll see just how high 143 is) and a 103 temperature I ended up fighting to keep away for the next 4 days. To make a long story short, that first afternoon I spent over 8 hours in a treatment room in the emergency area before they got my vitals under control and discovered the cause of everything.. The abortion pill I used began attacking my own body in a sense, and began a horrendous infection in my uterus. In the end I spent a week in the hospital on 3 of the most potent anti-biotics available, as well as some heavy-duty narcotic pain killers, while specialists from the surrounding hospitals kept watch over me constantly. It's now been almost a month since then, and I still have to have blood work done, as well as ultrasounds every now and then to keep monitoring my recovery. I have constant sharp pains in my abdomen and have been told the scar tissue left over from the infection may now keep me from becoming pregnant in the future.. It's all so much to deal with, and honestly, I don't think I've come to terms with everything yet. It still feels like a bad dream. Regardless of my experience with the pill and side effects it caused me, I can still step back and look at the broad picture of things.. The majority of women who use this method have no problems, and for them, this is a good way to go. I really do think it's a better choice for most, than to have the surgical abortion.. BUT - be warned.. It's not "easy" using the pill, and there's no way to know how you're body will react to it. I never knew I'd go through the things I did because of it. This is definitely not something to be looked at as the "new contraceptive" either, as some are saying. It's so risky, putting your body through something like this. It could take a toll on you that will effect the rest of your life. Like me.. Will I ever be able to have kids after everything that happened? Every woman out there should begin by being aware of how to avoid an unwanted pregnancy from the start. Such as life happens, and most protection only offers 99.9% effectiveness, we forget that's NOT 100%.. If you still become pregnant and choose to abort, do your homework.. read about all possibilities, and all side effects for each.. then decide what's best for you. I think the pill is a great option.. but be careful, it's certainly not without it's flaws.

 

Additional comments made prior to 2007
It has been almost 2 months since I had made the painful decision to get an abortion. I am only 18 years old so you could imagine hoe scary it was for me. After they examined me and told me how far I was they put me in this rome with a female doctor so I can take the oral pill that actually determines the pregnancy. When I took that pill, I felt fine until I had to get something in my stomach, I couldn't even eat my stomach was turning so bad. the doctor told me that I could insert the four pills vaginally anytime between then and 48 hours after the visit. I decided to insert them that night to get it over with and about an hour after it was literally hell. I was vomiting,bleeding perfusely, and experiencing pain more severe then I had ever felt before. To make a long story shorter, it has been about 2 months and I still haven't exactl stopped bleeding. I am young and afaid to go get checked because of it, and my life will never be the same. I had no choice my situation at the time wasn't what I wanted and now I will always regret it ... Reader on the web, 12 August 2007

 

 

I used the pill around february of '07. I was 6 1/2 weeks and I guess I didnt really know what I was getting myself into. I took the first pill which I had no side effects to. When I took the second one the next day, it was almost immediate cramping. Basically the worst cramps I had ever had. I was puking, had diarrea, and was in so much pain I was balled up on the couch crying. I guess I was a "lucky" one because my horrible cramps only lasted about an hour until I passed the birth tissue and then they subsided. Although I bled for a month after that (most of it not heavy), I completly regret it to this day. All I can ever think about is a perfectly beautiful child is now in a sewer somewhere. It's horrible, but thats how I think of it now. I wish I could go back and change things. I wish I never did it. All I hope is that it didnt hurt my chances of having a child in the future ... Reader on the web, 13 September 2007

Comments

melanie roberts's picture

don't judge

Actually she probably isn't lying...I had a medical abortion march 16th, I took the 1st pill at the clinic, and 2 pills at home by mouth, 48 hours later, I had started bleeding on the 17th, not heavy but bright red, about 4 hours after taking the 2 pills by mouth(dissolving) I felt a large gush and ran to the restroom, as I sat down I felt something large slide out, there in the toliet was the placenta and attached was the fetus, and it did look exactly like the pics online, I didn't have nausea, I didn't have a bowel movement, I can say this, medically speeking it was the way to go, emotionally I think we all know what's happening even if we don't actually see it, for me I didn't need to see it to know I was killing a potentially healthy human, and while my decision has tried me emotionally, morally, for me it was the right decision

Serendip Visitor's picture

You Have No Idea

You have no idea what I have been through. Matter of fact, how dare you even say something like that. Everyone experiences it differently. I'm not saying that this happens to everyone. I'm just telling my story, because I wanted to talk about it somehow, but I don't want to tell my family & friends. If anything, I'm saying it might just be easier to get a medical abortion. I do suggest to always look at other options, such as adoption, but that is not why I posted that.

never again's picture

I agree

I took the pill in january and am still having problems, but I just wanted to say that I experienced the same thing only it was about two hours after I took the four pills at home. I fell asleep in bed after taking the pills due to the vicodin and my fear of being awake. I woke up and went to the bathroom and I felt something fall into the toilet and when I stood up and looked it was the fetus and it was EXACTLY what it looks like in the pictures. I just about passed out and rushed back to the bed (which is 3 feet from my half bath thankfully) and called for my fiance to come look while I was balling my eyes out. It was a traumatizing experience for us. Unfortunantly, my sister had to have an abortion yesterday and had no choice but to go the surgical way, she felt no pain, it was over in a half hour, she cramped last night, but is perfectly fine now barely any bleeding. I have always been against abortions, I believe they should only happen if its absolutly neccessary and until now I didn't think there could ever be a good reason, but it has taught me to not judge. Seeing what I've been going through still, and the ease of the option my sister took, I would have to say the surgical is probably the way to go. This is not something that I will do again, but for those that are going to, that's my advice.

Bhem's picture

need help....after taking the abortion pill

ok. Actually I didnt expect end up writing in here but this is it maybe somebody will be answer my question. I'm Bem am 23 yrs old and a single parent of 2 lovely girls one is going 2 and the other is going 4...Being a mother is greatest moment in life specially raising ur child on ur own. I am a working mom to be able to support my kids as I mentioned I'm a single parent so its not easy for me having a baby again. Let me say I had a suitor which is a asshole! He promised everything on me and the stupid I am I did believe on him so I decided to had sex with him and after that sex he's gone! really gone! I never see him no cantact with him. At first I'm not worried that maybe it will bring me into pregnancy because he told me before we had sex that he had operation before and will never give a baby so I believe again but unfortunately my period missed, and signs of pregnancy was start. I did test and its positive! I was so stressed,:-( thinking my kids..so Ive decided to have an abortion anyway Im from Phil. so abortion here is illegal. So I did it only by myself and a help of my friend. I took the pill and did inserted the 2 in my vagina 1am is the time and after 2 hours I took the rest 2 pcs. I had sleep and cramping woke me up and I ran into the toilet and see my undie full of blood but I did not see any large cloth I had diarrhea and that day I had blood but not that heavy. I did not feel pain too much. after that day blood was only spot.Until now I have blood but it is only spotting and the color is brown. I dont know if I failed the abortion. I'm really scared maybe I will have infections. My friend advice me to check to a doctor but unfortunately its too expensive for me,please anyone can answer me. Is this dangerous I know. What will I do.? help me please...

Serendip Visitor's picture

Just want to help

You need to go to the doctor because it dosnt sound like you passed it and if its still in there you will get very sick. You might need to travel to a clinic that does abortions and get an ultrasound so they can see if the fetus is still in your belly. 5 or more out of 100 dont work from the pill and have to get surgically removed after taking the pill.

Serendip Visitor's picture

Did you push, I had

Did you push, I had contractions and I pushed everytime I felt a contraction and it came out. You have to push, remember your basically giving birth and its just not going to pop out.

w.zimik's picture

abortion

hi, dis da first time dat m writing,m in danger plz help me.i n ma girl fren had been in relationship for da past one yr n we r living together and it has been 4 month of pregnancy yes,she ate da medicine(misoprost)twice bt still now if m not mistaken its da 5th month plz help me.

A.'s picture

I need to share my feelings on this experience.

Okay im 18 years old and ive been with my boyfriend who is one year younger than me for almost two years now. i was told by my doctor that i wasn't able to have children because of some medication i had taken in my early teens for ulcers. a couple of weeks ago i started feeling the signs of pregnancy and my boyfriend thought i should take a test. so the next day i went with my best friend took a test and he was right i was going to have a baby. for teens as young as us and still living with our parents having a child was not the right choice for us and there was no way that i would be able to carry a baby for 9 months and then later just give it up for adoption. the decision was huge and we both don't agree with abortions but it was one of the hardest decisions we had ever made as a couple and in our entire lives. when i found out that i was pregnant i was only 3 weeks along. i called my local planned parenthood and they told me that i would have to wait two weeks before i could get the actual abortion i had chosen to take the pill instead of surgically doing it because i didn't wanna have to go through the whole procedure and i didn't want my mother finding out. i used those two weeks to prepare myself for what i was about to do. my boyfriend was there with me throughout the whole process. on my appointment date i was a little nervous because i knew it was going to be painful but i wasn't at all scared. i was perfectly comfortable with my choice because thats exactly what it was MY choice. no one forced anything on me or made me do it. i was explained very clearly the process of my procedure and in a little over in hour i was out of there with the first pill in my system and my prescriptions in hand. i felt no pain whatsoever that first day and continued with my daily activities. being that i was worried about the pain the next day i went online to research some blogs of women who have taken this pill and i ran into this one. i know every woman is different but some of the things that these women were sharing about crazy pain and vomiting scared me half to death. the next day my boyfriend picked me up and i began taking the pain killers and nausea pills. when it was time for the four tablets i hesitated but i went ahead and let them dissolve for 30 minutes. once the 30 minutes passed i drank some Gatorade and let the rest go down and i just layed down to relax. once i felt the intense contractions i went to the bathroom and sat there for about 15 minutes letting a lot of the blood pass and then i took the Tylenol with codeine and took a nap i slept for about 2 hours before the pain woke me up and i knew i was time to go back to the bathroom. i repeated this for the next 2 hours and was able to sleep for another 4 hours without having to get up to change my pad. i took the actual pills around 1:30 pm and by 7 i was perfectly fine i put on the heating pad and ate dinner took more pain meds and went to sleep by midnight it was nothing but normal menstrual cramps which i took the ibuprofen for and i was fine. The next day i was back to work no pain just normal menstrual like bleeding and little to nothing pain. I wanted to write this out for girls who come and read these things like me they don't have to be scared just take everything at your own pace.

Alanna's picture

Not as bad as i thought

A few days ago i read all these comments of how horrible and painful this experience would be and i was honestly terrified.I was litterally debating on just going to get the surgery. I ended up taking the misoprostol pills at about 11pm sunday night. I inserted the four pills into the vagina as instrusted and went and sat on the couch waiting for what i thought was going to be the worst pain of my life. An hour went by.. nothing happened.. then two then three... finally 6 hours after i went to the bathroom and i noticed light bleeding but no pain. So i went back to bed.. I got up the next morning had breakfeast went to the store came home then at about 12 pm monday i felt literally like i was peeing my pants so i went to the bathroom and large clots were falling into the toilet (sorry i know its gross) So i bled heavily for about 2 or 3 hours but with only minimum amount of cramping. Then once i passed a large amount of tissue the bleeding subsided and it was basically over. The most pain out of the whole thing for me was my bowels from being constipated from the tylonol 3. I know everyones experience is different but mine wasnt at all as horrible as i thought it would be from what iv read here. Im sorry to anyone who had to go through the pain.. but i would recommend this over the surgical procedure anyday.. im not proud but i have had both and from my experiece the surgical was 10xs more painful and mentally stressing then the medical procedure.

Anon's picture

Just Took The Pill Yesterday

I'm going to pretend I didn't see those negative and ignorant comments about abortion. This is not a page about opinions. This is about facts.

Anyways, I am 24 years old, and I was exactly 8 weeks pregnant when I started the abortion pill. I was extremely nervous as my doctor gave me 5 different pill containers and explained how to take each one. I took my first pill at noon, which was mifepristone, only one pill. She told me that this was the pill that stops the pregnancy hormone, and if I take it, then I must follow through with the rest of the pills, no turning back. The second bottle was doxycycline, an antibiotic that I started that night, which prevents infection. The third pill bottle was meclizine, which prevents nausea and vomiting, and the fourth was a rather large 800 mg dose of ibuprofen, a pain reliever. The fifth pill bottle was misoprostol, which contained exactly 4 pills. I know, it is a lot.

After I took the first pill, I went right to work and didn't experience any kind of symptoms. I still felt pregnant, my back hurt, my boobs were sore, and I was extremely bloated, nothing unusual. That night, I started the antibiotic, nothing crazy yet. The next day, I started the process around 11 am. As my doctor instructed, I took the nausea reliever, even though I didn't feel nauseated at all, I rarely ever do. However, this pill made me sleepy and almost sick to my stomach. At around 11:30, I took an 800 mg pill of ibuprofen. I thought it would be about enough to relieve the pain. And through this all I had major anxiety, I was sweating and my stomach was not happy. At noon, I finally took the misoprostol. I placed 2 pills in in each side of cheek, and they dissolved within a span of 20 minutes or so. I'm not even exaggerating, but I started cramping probably about within 5 minutes of placing the pills in my mouth. The cramps were pretty painful about 15 minutes in, and the pills hadn't even completely dissolved. After the pills dissolved, I was in so much pain that I thought I was already bleeding. I sat on the toilet, but nothing came out. I sat and found that leaning over and clutching my knees relieved the pain slightly, but not that much because it was unimaginably excruciating. It felt like someone was ringing my uterus rhythmically, which were probably what you would call contractions. Something that I found pretty strange was that I was freezing and I had constant chills. I was literally shaking and knocking over things as I threw on two robes and curled up under my covers. I don't mean to be graphic, but it was the worst pain I had ever felt in my life. I couldn't figure out what to do, no position could relieve the pain, so I decided to take a hydrocodeine I had left over from getting my molars removed a couple months ago. I waited about 20 minutes and that didn't help, so I took another half. No relief. WTF! Finally about 2 hour and 15 minutes in, the contractions started slowing down and the pain started easing. I wondered if I started bleeding, but I was still in too much pain to even care or move. I had no energy whatsoever. After 3 minutes, I'd say around 2:25 the contractions stopped and it did not hurt anymore. Maybe it did, but compared to what I felt earlier, it was nothing. I went to the bathroom, and I'm pretty sure at that moment I passed the fetus. I couldn't see it, but there was a lot of blood. None of the clots were even close to the size of a lemon, which is what my doctor told me was actually normal. After that, it was smooth sailing. I didn't bleed as much I thought. It was definitely the most painful 2 and a half hours of my life, but I don't regret doing it because I did not have a choice, really didn't. I'm glad I did it, but ladies, this was not easy. You can't just pop a few pills, and all of a sudden you're not pregnant. You have to pay the price for it, and it's a pretty big one. Anyways, just thought I'd share that and good luck.

Serendip VisitorLucy's picture

Would just like to say, that

Would just like to say, that my experience was very very similar. I did this two days ago, ant the craps started almost emediately. Started off like normal menstrual cramping and about an hour in I felt the worst possible cramping.. I'd imagine like being in labor. Had no nausea, but did have chills..didn't matter how many layers I put on, I was still chilled to the bone. And I had a constant need to sit on the toilet and push with every what I would assume would be contractions. So much blood and fluid came out every time..and small clotting for the most part. I was scared for a while. Eventually I passed two huge clots, the first far smaller than the next one. Bug the last one was slightly bigger than my fist.(that being said I was almost 8 weeks). But after that the cramping eased as the hours passed and was able to go to work the next morning. But over all.. Probably the most painful experience in my life this far, emotionally and physically. I know what I did was for the best in my life this this far. I'm 22, barely making ends meet, and the guy who wants nothing to do with it is honestly a horrible and unstable person. I wish the best for any woman who makes this hard decision...it doesn't make you weak it selfish, if anything it makes you wiser and stronger.

Liz's picture

Emotionally Stressed

Hi everyone, I'm a mother of 3 girls 7, 5, and the baby is 11 months. I am fully breasfeeding and just missed my period. The doctor had told me that when you breastfeed your period can stop again once it return. So i thought nothing of it because I am so busy and me and my husband barely have sex because we are so exhausted. I decided to go out and buy a test and the results were positive. I was happy and scared at the moment. We just moved to Massachusetts in September and all of our family is in NYC. My husband doesn't think it is fair to have another one right now since our youngest will be turning one next month. He is also scared that something might happen to me. All 3 births were c-sections and for my youngest I hemmorhage but the doctor said it was rare and that it wouldn't effect me having kids. My husband is really scared that it will happen if i have the baby, he said its my decision but he doesn't think its a good time. I've always said I would never have an abortion but here I am now not knowing what to do. So far this pregnancy feels so different no nausea, or morning sickness. I'm thinking what if this is the son I always wanted. It hurts me so bad thinking about it but i don't know what to do. I don't want to talk to any friends because I feel they will judge me. If anyone has any advice please respond.

Serendip Visitor's picture

Well maybe you could talk to

Well maybe you could talk to your family... Tell your husbend everything you are feeling & what you have expressed here... Other than that, there is nothing more I can tell you. YOU & your husbend need to come to an agreement... It is not just your decision if you feel so strongly about your husbends stand. Decide together.

mirian's picture

u should have the baby

i honestly think you should keep the baby,i have once had an abortion since then my conscence will not stop picking me

Serendip Visitor's picture

Who is to say that you have

Who is to say that you have the same life as her?

Serendip Visitor's picture

i think you should have the

i think you should have the baby, & if you think that your friends would judge you then i guess there not really your friends. a baby is a gift from God & many women wished they were you right now so why take it for granted. i don't think an abortion is a solution its killing a life

Serendip Visitor's picture

I don't think you are

I don't think you are suggesting a solution buy adding "killing a life" at the end of your statement. That may not be the way she thinks. I agree with everything you stated... But that last statement suggests judgement in her actual decision making.

Liz's picture

Thank You

I will be having the baby. I knew I was going to have it all along, I just needed to speak to someone about it. And you are right if they would judge me than they are definitely not my friends :)

m0niKa's picture

I feel the same way dont know

I feel the same way dont know what to do...already have 1 baby and i am now pregnant with my 2nd...im only 18.i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Serendip Visitor's picture

i feel the same way i am 18

i feel the same way i am 18 and already have two kids i am now pregnant with another one. my boyfriend dont want it i do. pleaseeeeeeeeeee help me somebody lost and confused. abort or not..... love or no love should i leave my boyfriend or not?

Serendip Visitor's picture

If it is true love then you

If it is true love then you both would come to an agreement together!!

mirian's picture

keep your baby please

please keep ur pregnancy,i have had an abortion once and till today my conscience wouldnt stop picking me

Liz's picture

I know what to do

I'm only 25 I had my first when I was 17, two months after my graduation. My second came when I was 20. Even then I decided that having that baby was more important than what anyone thought. So why should I have an abortion now?? Its not going to happen. This baby was meant to be born. Everything happens for a reason :)

Serendip Visitor's picture

Regardless of my opinion...

You know, I just wanted to tell you that, yes, for some women their symptoms help them tell if it is a boy or girl. I'm one of those women. With my sons I only had nausea, but with my daughter I was less nauseas and vomited all the time! I personally am pro-life but I don't just talk the talk...I walk the walk. I was an 18 year old, conservative, Christian girl when I first got pregnant. My first boyfriend and I had slipped up about 10 times in 6 months. (I was planning on waiting for marriage and everyone around me thought I was.) I became pregnant right after Thanksgiving of 1998, the year I graduated from high school. Abortion never even crossed my mind but the humiliation that I'd endure sure did. That 9 months was not fun especially not having family support but I am so glad that I chose to have my son! I thought about adoption but my boyfriend and I really loved each other! I took a leap of faith and decided to raise my son, with or without his daddy. My boyfriend and I broke up 6 months after he was born. It took 4 years and me moving to another state for my boyfriend to realize the mistake he made. In 2003 we ended up getting married...he became my husband and I had 2 more kids with him (Now they are 11, 7 & 4). All 3 of my children are precious and I wouldn't trade them for even the greatest college education (I was going to be a nurse!) You know in your heart what is right to do with this baby...you make the choice and don't feel pressured into doing what anyone else wants. Otherwise, you will regret it. :o)

Serendip Visitor's picture

Advice

I just want you to know that I understand the stress you are facing. I have three boys, and I found out about my third when my second was only 5 months old. I was so very scared. As stated above, I had my third, and I want you to know that I have no regrets. Find a doctor who has good references and experience in dealing with high risk pregnancies. Just as your doctor said, you should be fine. I encourage you to do alot of research on the details of abortion, the evidence speaks for itself. There is always adoption, but I know that would be hard to explain to your girls. I really hope you choose life, and stand up for the rights of the child within you. I also encourage you to devote time to prayer and an honest look at the Scriptures.

Liz's picture

Thank You

Thank you for the advice. I have definitely done my research and even watch videos. I am pro life.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.
Ecclesiastes 3:13 And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour, it is the gift of God

This baby is a gift from God as my other 3 are. I will be thankful for what has been given to me, and I will put all my faith in HIM.

Thank you so much and may God Bless you and your family :)

ang's picture

PAINFUL!!

ok, so i have never ever wrote a review 4 anything b4, but i definitely felt like i needed to for this. i know that the night b4 going 2 the abortion clinic i read all of these reviews bcus i wanted 2 know what 2 expect, so i hope that my review will help a girl out there who needs some answers.
ok so i went to the clinic on monday (feb 14th) they did the tests and found out i was a little less than 5 weeks prego. i took the 1st pill there n felt fine, just a little nervous and shaky. i came home and ate a regular meal bcus the nurses told me i would get dizzy if i didnt eat. i felt no different after that 1st pill n went on about my day. the next day (feb 15th) which was yesterday i took the 2nd set of pills. like the directions said i took the pain killers an hr b4 taking the abortion pills. i set them between my gums n cheek like instructed and left them there for 30 mins after which i swished my mouth with water and swallowed the pills. after about only 15 mins i felt like i had 2 go to the bathroom, i had diharrea which is one of the common side effects and only a tinie tiny bit of blood but nothing major. i was also starting 2 cramp up, but it was nothing more than regular period cramps. after i went to the restroom the cramps only got worse and worse, and about an hr later i had 2 go to the bathroom n i felt the blood cloths come out. they werent huge, but it definitely felt uncomfortable as they were coming out. i think the biggest blood cloth i released was about the size of a grape. the bleeding for me wasnt too bad, what was terrible 4 me was the cramping. i have never been in soo much pain in my life. at 1st when i was reading this reviews i thought some ppl were exaggerating but no way! the cramps r terrible! i wasnt able to sleep until like 5 am bcus the pain was so intense, i took 3 pain killers n they did not help! i tried to sit and stand and lay in every posible position i could think of but there was just no way of feeling comfortable. i cant even explain how terrible i felt! luckily this morning the pain wore off, i still had some cramping but nothing compared to the way i felt yesterday. when i woke up this morning i seriously felt like all that pain from last night was just a terrible nightmare! it was almost unberable! i am sooo glad its over!! i have my follow up apt mnext week so i am hoping everything went well!! i will never have unprotected sex again unless its w/ the man who im gonna marry!

Serendip Visitor's picture

Helppppppp!!

So I'm 17 yrs old I missed my period the guy I think I'm preg. By is 22 yrs old he has a child with a diff. Woman n I think if I end up beign preg. The pill would be the best choice for me... I promised my self to never ever do this to a unborn child but I'm thinking about my future I'm too young n yes I know I shouldn't have made the choice in puttin myself in a spot like this I need someone, anyone to reach out n help me. My momdoesnt know I might be preg. I'm too scared to tell her but I'm tryin to just spit it out before it's too late :( So can anyone just help me out WTF do I do

qisel's picture

OMG!

Omqq' no wayy iam qoiinq throuqh the samethinq but my mom does Noe iam qoinq to a Clinic tomorrow to qet the abortion Pill iam Scared TO DEATH! Dat somethiinq miiqt qo wronq' but i have faiith in qod' iam 17 yrs old to but if i dnt do This My whole future depends On it' i say qo ahead nd Talk to ur mom blut iit than tell her ur Options Cuz the Sooner the Better'

Rachel's picture

Have you taken a pregnancy

Have you taken a pregnancy test?

Serendip Visitor's picture

Abortion pills

last month me and my girl friend doing sex. she mensus date is coming but she did not bleed. now what should i do please

Al's picture

your girfriend

buy a pregnancy test from the drug store. If she is pregnant, go to a crisis pregnancy center where they will help her through the pregnancy and help her decide whether to keep the baby or to give him to a loving family. Don't kill the baby as it will haunt you and your girl the rest of your lives as well as destroying a human being.
Praying for you,
Al

drea's picture

my story...

So I'm 20 yrs old.. I'm 5"6 165.. my pregancy was an accident wit a man that he refuse to help me thru dis whole process or acceptance of the baby.. in other words it was juss a fling that went wrong.. I have a boyfiend who I live wit and he wasn't the father I couldn't do this to him give him a child that isn't his.. I can't live thinking that the asshole who got me prego is out there left his child for my man.. so I decided to have the pill.. I read all the postings for 2 weeks before I went in the clinic.. I was horrified for what was going to happen.. but honestly it our choice and there nothing you haters can do.. so I went to the clinic on 2/14/2011 they did test n all that.. gave me the pill yu take in front of the Physician.. she gave me ibufren.the 4 pills. doxycylin. N prescription for tyneloy 3(sry for mispellin but yu noe).. the 1st day I was FINE.. and den today was the day I was sacred I was by myself thru out the whole thing.. honestly yu bleed a lot a lot a lot.. I took 2 ibufren n 2 tyenlo.. den I tried to eat but coudnt idk why but juss couldn't.. and 30 mins later I did the cheek thing for 30 mins and drank the rest.. and I IMMEDIATLY threw up.. after dis I was worried that it wasn't going to work.. but I layed in bed drooling cuz of the painkillers.. and waited.. after an hour I felt a little cramps and bleedin started.. after a while bleeding was gettin out of control so sat in the tiolet all pilled out.. juss blood coming out.. after 3 hours sittin there.. ii guees the painkillers wore out and I felt pain! Bad pain but it was bearable.. but at times it juss HURT.. so I went in for a HOT shower.. felt a little good but then got back to the toilet.. after another 30 mins.. I threw up again.. after that I now I'm good its bin 8 hours and I juss want to noe if it worked or not.. I will post in a week about my follow up appoitment and my symtoms after the 2nd day.. my name is drea.. I will never do this again ever.. its not fair for anyone but we live n we learn.. if your thinkin about doing this.. think about it.. I luv myself and I'm not going to put myself thru dis again..

Serendip Visitor's picture

After hearing these horror stories....

I felt I needed to post my experience with this which was just last night. I have to admit that after reading some of the stories here I was scared to death of what was going to happen.

So, last night at about 6:00 I fired up my heating pad, took an anti-nausea pill, two tylenol with codeine and three extra-strength tylenol. At about 6:30 I took my first two Misoprostol and then I got in bed and waited. After about an hour the cramping started but having prepared for it earlier with the meds, it wasn't that awful. It hurt but difinitely doable. At around 8pm I noticed that I had to use the bathroom. As people have described, I passed a very large clot and some small ones. I went back to bed after this and at 8:30 took the other 2 Misoprostol.

The cramping and passing of large clots happened for another few hours and then it was pretty much over. I never even had to change a pad, even though I did. I think that staying in bed and only getting up to use the bathroom really helped!

I had a little nausea after the first set of Misoprostol and the cramping was intense for a bit but I have always had heavy and painful periods so this was really no different for me. This morning I have some light bleeding and some mild cramping. I think for me, the anticipation of what was going to happen was worse than what actually did happen.

I am sorry for those of you who had such an awful experience with this as making this decision is painful enough. It really was the right decision for me.

S.R's picture

I was ready for the worst...

After reading all these traumatic stories I was confused and scared on what was the right option for me. I never thought I would be going through this. I'm 24 years old and have an extremely busy and demanding job. My husband and I decided right now was not the right time for us. I have always been on top of my birth control pill- every day, same time. I would also take the placebo pills just so I wouldn't lose my routine. This just proves, one needs to be extra careful and cannot count on just one method of birth control.

On 2/3/2011 I went to planned parenthood. I got an ultrasound and found out I was 5 weeks and the only option I had was the medical abortion. I decided to go through with it. When I got to the payment part I found out my health insurance would cover 100% of the surgical- so I decided to reschedule to come back in 2 weeks (since you have to be 7 weeks to get the surgical). As I walked out and got into my car I decided there was no way on earth I could go through the surgical. So, I went back inside- told the lady I went to go put money in the meter so they would let me back in. Went straight to the payment lady and told her I'd rather go through the medical and pay $435 than go through the surgical. She kept trying to Convince me to go through the surgical and said I would be asleep, wake up, and not remember what happened. I told her I would feel more comfortable in my home. So, I paid the money and she let me into the recovery room immediately. As I waited got the doctor to come give me the first pill- I saw girls getting wheeled out into the recovery room who just got the surgical abortion. I couldn't believe how many girls there were. They all looked miserable and in a lot of pain. They were only able to relax and recover for about 30 min then they had to leave. I felt I had made the best choice. I waiting for about 15 min then I took the first pill. 2 minutes later a nurse came to give me a bag full of pills and directions of how to take the pills.

I got home and felt fine. I went to work the next day (Friday). On Saturday I took the ibuprofen and 30 minutes later the 4 pills. I was super nervous and scared of all the scary stories I've read. 3-4 hours later I had mild cramping and went to lay in bed. My husband brought me a heating pad- then I felt a blood clot coming and ran to the bathroom. Felt a couple big blood clots come out then i went back to bed. The entire day I was still waiting for horrible cramping and lots of pain. I never experienced any pain or major camping. I took the Tylenol codeine 2 hours after I took the ibuprofen- but that was it. I never took either pain killers after that because I never felt any pain. It's been one week and the bleeding is very light (almost gone). I tool a pregnancy test yesterday because I was worried maybe the procedure didn't work due to lack of pain and major cramping and it came back negative. I have my check up this Friday to make sure everything went well and there hasn't been any infection.

I highly recommend the medical abortion if someone is considering abortion. I'm pro-choice. I would never be able to give my baby up for adoption and would love to give him/her the best life. So, this was the best option for me. My best recommendation is for people to use 2 methods of birth control instead of relaying on just one. Pills/condoms/patch/ring/etc are not 100% effective even if used correctly all the time. It's a very difficult process to go through with- emotionally, mentally, and physically. Not everyone might have it as easy as I did. Everyone's body reacts differently to things.

Serendip Visitor's picture

Took the pill everthing fine, would never consider abort again

Hi all, I took the pill in September 2010, a day before I would have hit 7 weeks. I went to PP and they gave me one pill to swallow orally. They gave me a presecription of 3 pills to let disolve under my tongue the next day. I think this is the medication that causes you to contract. Well, after taking the first pill that day I felt fine. The morning sickness I had dissappeared within a few hours. I didnt feel pregnant anymore. That night I went to bed dreading tomorrow, because I knew those pills would be the ones to start contracting the fetus. I was supposed to take them about 24 hours after that first pill. About 4 hours before I took the second round of pills, I started to bleed like a heavy period coming on. No pain, but I took painkillers anyway. I could feel that my body was naturally trying to expel the pregnancy. So I called PP and let them know, and asked them if I should even take the second set of pills. They said I definetly need to take them, regardless if I started bleeding prior to taking them. So took 800 mgs of ibuprofin, then disolved the pills in my mouth. I was so afraid of experiencing some of the pain described on these message boards, that I took like two more over the counter tylenol. I placed a heat pad on my abdomen and sat down bracing for the worst. I started cramping slightly but could barely feel it I think because of all the pain meds I was on. I sat on the floor curled up in a ball, as this seemed to be the most comfortable position I could put myself in. To be honest the pain felt like a bout of diarhea, and some of your most intense menstrual cramps. That lasted for just a few hours, then my stomach settled down. I tried to look and see what I was passing but the clots were tiny or long a slimy looking. The biggest one was the size of a grape, if I had to describe it. So I think that was the fetus passing. After that I was fine that night, and the next day. By Monday I was bleeding like a heavy period, and decided I didnt want to wait two weeks like they told me to go back for a check up. I called my gyno that monday and she got me in. She checked me and said everything had expelled. Just follow up with blood work to see if the hormone levels drop. I bled like that for about two weeks then by the third week it was a light period. The bleeding stopped after about four weeks. I had been taking the birth control as they intructed immediately following the abortion. I went back to my normal cyle shortly after that first month of bleeding. I suffer from time to time for what I did. I wish I could go back and change the past, and kept my little baby. I am married, have stable job, but at the time felt i wasnt ready. I wasnt being responsible and protecting myself, and my husband wanted a baby. We had an accident, (or so he says). I knew the day I conceived, it turned out to be the most fertile day of the month for me. I was freaking out that same day, and went out to buy the morning after pill. Well unfortunately that didnt work, cuz three weeks later I was crying on the bathroom floor with a positive pregnancy test. I wish I could go back, and of clearer mind, because despite me not being ready, it was gods creation. A life that I should have let live. It hurts and I cry at times. I would never consider doing this again, no matter what the circumstances. I wish I would have know at the time what I was doing.

Marnie's picture

abortion pill - very traumatic experience

I had come on this site the day before I was due to have the abortion pill. I just hoped that I would be one of the ones who found it fairly bearable in terms of the pain and psychological trauma.
I didn't know anyone who had taken it and have always been against abortion as a general view but not judgemental. I found it very difficult to be at the clinic and no-one seemed to be able to tell me anything about the level of pain or size of clots to expect etc. After taking the 2nd lot of tablets I was driven home and 2 hours later was just having mild period cramps, however within another hour my pain level was at 10 and stayed this way for a good 3- 4 hours. Basically your cervix is opening and you are giving birth. I took a double dose of ibruprofen and had a hot water bottle. I couldn't let my friend near me as the pain was so distressing. I was 8 weeks and a day. soon I felt the need to go to the toilet. the first time it was blood but the second time I felt the sensation of something large about to come out, it was a very horrible feeling although not painful, the sac came out in one complete, intact state and fell down the toilet, I would say it was about the size of one of those beanbags you throw at pe at school. I hadn't been told that this could happen and found this to be the most traumatic part. I had to fight the urge to put my hand in the toilet and retrieve it. I'm sorry to be so graphic but I wish someone had told me how big it would be and that it would all come out in one go like that.
I can hand on heart say that I would never take the abortion pill again or have an abortion again. It is something that will stay with me for the rest of my life and is certainly not an easy option in any way. I felt it would be less of an 'abortion' than the surgical option but it is so more graphic and brings it home to you what you are actually doing not to mention the pain. Sitting here 2 days later I feel hollow and that I will always be slightly tainted now. When I got home from the clinic I lit a tealight candle next to my bed for the baby, after the sac came out of me I got back into bed and the light went out. I understand that maybe it is not as painful or large if the pregnancy is earlier, all I can share is what happened to me and to say to people to be prepared that it may be very painful and distressing.

Jot Sandhu's picture

i took dis pill six months

i took dis pill six months ago,it was my first conception after mrriage,now want to conceive again,but becoz of this pill my prolactin harmone has increased working,and i hvnt conceived yet...so i advise to avoid it if u are seeking for ur first baby...

Serendip Visitor's picture

on october 23rd of 2010 i

on october 23rd of 2010 i took the abortion pill.i bleed a little passed one some what large clot. i have gotten my period regualy since. but i seem to be gaining weight rapdily my stomach feels hard. i never went back for my follow up appointment but ive taken 3 pergnancy tests and they have all been negative

Keilee Adrian's picture

A Serious Choice

These issues can be very emotive. But what is clear is that the abortion pill is very powerful medication which affects women's deepest biology. Certainly nobody should take the decision to use the pill lightly. On the other hand, I don't believe any woman should be afraid to seek professional advice if she is contemplating the need for the pill. If contemplating any form of abortion, either medical or surgical, the woman is already going to be in a troubled state of mind, so it is vital to have some calm logical professional advice on the options available and the risks involved.

S's picture

My Agony

I am 37 years old and am scheduled to take the pill this coming Monday. I choose this over the vacuum because I fear the vacuum is far more damaging and I would like to leave my options open for a future planned pregnancy. I too like the lady that replied to 'Goodluck' does not believe in abortion as a form of birth control, however, somethings are not meant to be and accidents do exist. I am an educated divorced mother of 2- their father and I were together for a long time. I just became pregnant by him, but we are not together and I do not plan on allowing him back into our lives - although he was the love of my life and I still hold very strong feelings for him he was mentally abusive, a terrible husband and not an exemplary father by any means. Our children do not even want me back with him because they have seen far too much. I am about 5 weeks and I didn't even have to think about it, NO I CANNOT have another child by this person. I truly believe that bringing this child to life is far more cruel than terminating it's growth. I am not religious but spiritual and the bible is simply convenient words put together by a forum of men- just nice parables, but not fact- if the idea of God is a fact then I genuinely believe that the soul of the child I carry within me will still live, just not with me, but rather with a far better family one with an honorable lifestyle- someone who lives in a happy stable, loving and loyal family atmosphere. This child is not meant to be mine. I will look at this experience as a stepping stone and learn from it and be more careful with the decisions I make- one passionate night does not a family nor a marriage make. And if I do experience pain then karma it is- I did this to myself and deserve all that comes with it. But one thing is for sure, I would not have a second abortion- that in itself would be irresponsible, selfish and cruel! Good luck to you all!

Serendip Visitor's picture

make the best decision for you and only you!

i am 23 and i always said i would never get an abortion and that if i ever got pregnant no matter what situation i could never go threw with getting one! though you are right sometimes in our life we are not ready to become a mother and as far as my situation goes i would be very very selfish to bring a baby into this world. i have to take my 2nd portion of the abortion pills tomorrow and am some what relieved that this transition is almost over. it might sound cruel but i do not regret my decision, i might look back and be sad but never will i regret my decision because i picked this decision for me and only me and if it were the wrond decision for me i wouldnt of picked it. well with that said i just wnated to say thank you for your look on your spiritual view of the abortion! it is the most beautiful way ive seen so far of someone putting there view out there on not ending the life but on giving a better life! it made me very emotional and im with you so thank you! so the day that i become pregnant in the future with someone i love and want to share my life with and a beautiful baby it will be the happiest day of my life and how do i know this is how it will happen?! having to make the decision of getting an abortion changes the way you do things in life wether its the way you act when you like a guy or drinking less and especially growing up becuase if anyone knows about not wanting to grow up its me. im just going to make alot of life changing commitments and im going to stick to them so that decision will never come up in my life again!

Serendip Visitor's picture

The Aftermath

It has been exactly one week since I took the abortion pill. I am 33 yrs old. I have two children. I was 19 when I had my first son, and 23 with my second. The father wanted me to have an abortion both times. I said no. I went through the pregnancies alone and they are beautiful thriving boys today. I am older now and have various health conditions that challenged me with going through a pregnancy. It is funny, I was more brave at 19 than now. For any young woman that says "I can't" and "I am too young". You can do it. I got a job in an office and bought a house in my own name at 25. It is very hard, but it is worth it.
I have been in an relationship with, I thought, a good man. He said, our children will be beautiful. When I found out I was in fact pregnant, he said I am so happy it's you. He was proud and I thought, this man really does love me. He became distant over the days. I received a well thought out email, with highlights, about how I need to have an abortion. I was crushed. Here I was again. I gave in. I crumbled under pressure. I swallowed my pain and arrived to the clinic. You had to be buzzed in. The door was on lock down. Sign a paper, stating "Abortion Services", directions..follow the hallway up the stairs. It was cold. I suppose I expected a counselor or someone to talk to. No. Sign here and here, room full of girls, ran through the spill, the young woman talked faster than an auctioneer. I watched these girls, some texting. Some staring into space. I felt raped of emotion. I numbed myself. They asked "are you sure" as if reading from a script. "Yes" I mumbled. I let anger overcome me. I crawled into myself where love nor hope could reach. I did not want this. He was there, reading a book. We had the ultrasound. I asked for a copy. I sat down with the doctor at an old desk, filled with paper cups of water. He put the pill in my hand. I stared the dr in the eye as the tears welled up and I swallowed. In denial. I went about my day, semi dazed. My now ex, was with me. We got a hotel room for the weekend. I didn't want the memory of this to be tied to my home. Saturday Jan 29, 2011, I put the pills in my cheeks. No nausea, I took phenegran before this, it dissolved. my throat began to burn as if covered in acid. I sipped on a milkshake. It helped. I took my pain pill, a wimpy lortab, they gave me 8. I have been given more for a kidney infection.
First came the stomach cramps, like a stomach bug. Diarrhea, then came the blood. I felt clumps fall out of me. I am not squemish around blood. This horrified me. It looked like red wet ribbons. Reality hit me, this is real. The pain began. Yes, it felt like childbirth. My son was 9 lbs 9 oz, I know pain! I felt the contractions, I was expecting menstrual pain. No, the cervix opens and the uterus empties. I cramped so hard, I did lamaze breathing I learned when I was 19. I screamed into a pillow. After 6 hours, the pain subsided. I felt weak. I took the antibiotics. I cried myself to sleep. Even after a normal birth, hormones decline rapidly. It does affect you. I knew I have done something that I will always regret. I have ALWAYS been pro choice. I believe a woman has the right to choose, yet we must live with the aftermath. We must deal with the consequences. To this day I still bleed and cramp. The antibiotic gave me an allergic reaction, my throat closed up and was rushed in an ambulance. Having to repeat why I had to take the antibiotics was bad enough. Especially to the female doctor that was visibly pregnant. My heart rate was about 120. I have endured hell since that first day at the clinic. Deep down inside, I felt I deserved it. I am disappointed that Planned Parenthood did not have a real counselor on staff. I firmly believe now, that a 24 waiting period is essential. I believe women need to be counseled and watched carefully. This is not just a physical procedure, it is a mental issue also. I have had depression for years. They ignored that fact. I hold my seven year old to prevent myself from hurting myself. My grief is unbelievably bad. This coming from a woman that has been a full supporter of womens rights and the option to choose. For some, it is necessary. However, we should be cautioned or advised that we must grieve. It is the same as miscarrying, one must grieve. A list of post abortion support groups or counselors would have been nice. In one week I am to go back to this place for a follow up. I dread it with all of my being. My boyfriend and I broke up. This has completely changed my life. Having a baby does too. I have to say that now, my son, that I was told to abort is sitting at my feet. Asking me if I am ok. I hold him in my arms and smell his hair and feel his hands. I did do something right in my life. I know I will never do this again. The aftermath of grief is too intense. Everyone has their own story. Regret is the toughest pill to swallow.
For the ones that choose to judge, remember be careful of the stones you throw. God is forgiving and is love. Spend some more time in bible class. Offer an open arm to those who are affected by this.
I have seen both sides now. To be a young unwed mother and to have an abortion. I know this decision will always haunt me. I am not the same woman that entered the clinic. I am different now.

oklahoma gurl 's picture

Dear aftermath iam writing

Dear aftermath
iam writing you because i see my life as almost the same as yours . Iam 24 i have two beautiful babies that are boys i had my first when i was 19 and my second when i was 22 .iam in a relationship with a man whom ive dated foe almost two years now, He was ok with me being pregnant at first but then decided that we should not have it . Iam in so much stress right now i don't know what to do . I did agree like you to have a abortion and iam trying to be ok with it . I think about all tha positive things about having one. I do understand that the world is getting pretty crazy right now and iam not ready to bring another child into a world of stress. I do believe i will be emotionally stressed by this but i belive its the best thing . Its not fair to the baby but i see what my two boys go through now and they are hurt by the seperationg of parents an wish things were diff. So i belive that sumtimes we all have to make decisions like these and it hurts. iam so sorry that you feel grief but you should look at how much it will be easier to have just two instead of three. this should be bringing you closer to your boys . I know i will to be hurt but i know life will be easier and i can focus on myself and kids more now . I hope things do get better for you .

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PRO CHOICE

I'm 18 years old and had a medical abortion a week ago. This past December I visited some friends in a different state and ended up having unprotected sex with someone. I came home from the holidays and went on with my life as normal. I notice around the middle of January that my period had not come. I tried to convince myself that it was probably just late because of stress from starting a new semester of school earlier that month. After 3 days had passed I began to get worried. I decided to take a home pregnancy test and it came up positive. I was devastated and partially in denial so I took the second one that came in the box and got the same results. After contacting the guy who I had sex with and discussing the options with him, we decided to not keep it. I made and appointment at an abortion clinic near my house later that week. At the clinic I had an ultrasound to confirm how far along I was, at that point I was about 4-5 weeks along. They continued to take a sample of my blood and ask questions about my medical history. The nurse then handed me a bag that contained informational papers regarding the procedure and any side effects that may occur and some additional medications. The doctor gave me the Mifeprex pill which I took with her present in the room then I was sent home. That night I began to feel some light cramping. The following morning I noticed a little bit of vaginal bleeding. I was instructed to eat a meal and take a Naproxen pill that morning to help with any cramps that I might experience. After 30 minutes or so I took the four Misoprostol pills that were provided bucally. The nurse had instructed me to keep them in my cheeks to dissolve for at least 45 minutes to an hour but the texture of the medicine was so chalky that I felt as if I was going to throw up. In fear that I would throw up the medicine and my abortion wouldn't work I took a sip of water and swished it around my mouth and swallowed it after only 15 minutes. About 30 minutes after that I began to feel nauseous. I wasn't sure if I was safe to throw up so I called the clinic and asked the receptionist. She told me that it was normal to feel that way and that if I needed to throw up I could because the medicine should have already began to take effect. Immediately after I got off the phone I threw up and my nausea went away. Within the hour I began to experience severe cramps and heavy bleeding. I spent most of the morning and part of the afternoon sitting on the toilet, passing large blood clots. The only thing that seemed to make my stomach feel better was drinking lots of fluids. I was drinking glass after glass of whatever I could; water, juice, soda. Eventually the cramping calmed down and I was able to rest in bed. The next day, as instructed, I started my birth control pills that the clinic provided for me. They said that it would help lessen the bleeding. But two days ago I have been experiencing severe cramps and back aches around the same time everyday since. I'm not sure if it is normal because of the RU-486 or if it's the birth control causing it. I called the clinic again just earlier and am waiting on the nurse to return my call. So far my experience has been painful but not unbearable.

Best of luck to everyone.

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Ok, so I had this medical

Ok, so I had this medical abortion procedure too in October 2010. I must say, it truly was painless for me. After inserting the 2nd pills the abortion happened a few hours later. I took the vicoden and felt absolutely no pain. Afterwards, I had very little bleeding while waiting for my follow-up appointment. At the follow up, the ultrasound went great and the pregnancy test was negative. "NO COMPLICATIONS"! However, I am still bleeding and it is now February 2, 2011. I would only stop bleeding for about 4 days in November, December, and January. December was insane. I thought I was bleeding to death (eventhough I knew better). I bled so heavily, I was wearing pads and tampons. I finally visited my gynecologist and she confirmed that I was fine, as well. The urine test and blood test was negative. She also checked to make sure that my uterus had contracted. Apparently, that can also cause you to bleed continuously. There was no tissue left. Ironically, I stopped bleeding the day of the appointment. I thought it was all over. Three days later it started again. January came and I was still bleeding, again it stopped for 4 days, started back. Went back to planned parenthood today and they checked me all over again and still nothing. They say everything looks great. Oh, and ironically (again) I stopped bleeding for the appointment. Got home and guess what, bleeding again. IT WON'T STOP! I don't know what to do now. Someone please help if you know of or have heard of anything. It's not only annoying, but honestly, I'm scared.

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I had this procedure 6weeks ago and I'm still bleeding, Planned parenthood said it was normal...it is annoying its not a heavy bleeding but just the fact that is slow and i can go a full day without a spot in my pad and then at night....blood again, its usually every time i use the bathroom to pee, and i am scared too!!! I'm reading stories where it lasts months so will i never have a normal period again??? I can't have sex bc im grossed out of doing it "on my period" and its not that i'm a sex addict but its kind of frustrating to me and my partner... hopefully this goes away soon!!! I feel your pain and understand what you're going through I'm embarrassed to ask my ob/gyn b/c i dont know if she is against abortion or what she would think of me after that so i dont know what to do.....

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Hi sorry to hear your story

Hi sorry to hear your story please let us know if you still or done bleeding I'm going through the same situation :(

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heres 2 pill that ca help stop the bleeding

ii took the pill january 27 and is still bleeding up till today, february 5th, and is still having KILLER cramps every 2-3 days. i went the doctor and told thrm what happen, and he wrote me as prescription of pills that ii should take 2 stop the bleeding and eventually when the bleeding stop, so will the pain. i cant really understand his writing much, but iit says the 1st pill is PROVERA. (take 1 of that eachday for 5 days) and PONDTON (TAKE 1 OF THAT FOR 3 DAYS. i got it yesterday so im going to buy the pill later and hopefully within the next 5 days all this is done with.

good luck!

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You can have irregular

You can have irregular spotting and bleeding for months after taking the abortion pill. This is normal, and eventually it goes back to normal. One way to help regulate everything is by taking birth control pills.