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High Heels: 4 Inches Closer to Heaven

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High Heels: 4 Inches Closer to Heaven

by Arielle Abeyta

"To be carried by shoes, winged by them. To wear dreams on one's feet is to begin to give reality to one's dreams."
-Roger Vivier

Shoes of every make and style are loved by women across the globe but it is the heel, whether stiletto or platform that is coveted, adored, desired in such abundance simply in and of the shoe itself. They're everywhere. They run rampant in books, calendars, photographs, album and movie covers, dangling in miniature precious metal versions from earlobes and chains, women's closets and even their living rooms, and let's not forget their most important place of residence- women's feet. They're a constant obsession in pop culture, endlessly talked about and fetishized in television, movies, song lyrics, and seem to be worn without fail by glamorous celebrities no matter the occasion. The most notorious of the shoe loving pop culture media is of the smash HBO series Sex and the City, in which shoes are one of its main themes.

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What's in a shoe? Perhaps it was originally intended to protect one's feet from the elements but today the shoe has evolved from its practical origins to grandiose heights, and at the highest level is of course, the high heel. Heels are not something one simply wears on their feet, but a passion, hobby, personal expression, source of authority, sexual independence, staple of gendered feminine culture, mark of flaunted femininity, psychologically empowering, and joy. Women choose to wear high heels for many reasons; the key is that they indeed are the ones who proactively choose to endorse the high heel, often at the expense of their own physical comfort.
High heels have long been stigmatized as a crippling mechanism of the ever present and detrimental patriarchy. As a system of values, categorizations, lateral and vertical hierarchies, oppression, subordination, presentation and performance overlaying American society, meanings are infused in every aspect of life. It appears impossible to escape misogynistic values but as Judith Butler writes, "The law might not only be refused, but it might also be ruptured, forced into a rearticulation that calls into question the monotheistic force of its own unilateral operation." (Butler, 122) In other words, never underestimate the "range of disobedience;" (Butler, 122) because the possibilities of rejecting domination are endless.
The significance of shoes, feet and high heels have a history of masculine power and female fetishization. Opponents of the high heel often call upon fascist beauty standards and self destructive desires to please men as the culprits responsible for causing women to don back breaking heels which limit mobility and cause extreme physical harm not only to the feet but also the knees and back.
However, high heels are most often learned in a matrilineal context; whether one learns to wear them from watching and/or hearing their mother, their favorite actress or pop culture in general, the appreciation is taught by women. It is a conscientious decision made by women to participate in a crafted female culture. Little girls emulate their mothers and role models and the guiding women in their life, friends or relatives teach them. High heels are a way of passing on "the feminine" as a learned process.

Little girl wearing her mother's heels

Harmful footwear being perpetuated by women is nothing new; it can be seen in other cultures. Most notorious is Chinese foot binding in which it was seen as a rite of passage. Between the ages of 3 and 8, girls underwent "gin lien" in which, according to tradition, a mother gave her daughter a pedicure then folded the four toes forward and under the arch, bound them, only to unbind them thereafter to bath and bandage them further and tighter to the hopeful form of the rare and glorified three inch "golden lotus." (O'Keefe, 405) In Western society high heels are also damaging if worn frequently and like Chinese foot binding are self inflicted within the feminine realm.

A traditional Chinese "lotus" shoe. -


Speaking of the high heel and specifically the stiletto, Caroline Cox, author Stiletto, says, "Not for nothing do we refer to stilettos as killer heels. These are shoes that blatantly contravene the original purpose of footwear: to protect the feet and aid mobility." (Cox, Instyle Magazine) There are earlier records of high heel shoes that served a practical function such as heeled boots horse riders wore to grip their stirrups better.
However, 1533 was the year that gave birth to the high heel that served no purpose other than beauty and vanity. Catherine de Medicis, aged 15, brought them with her from Florence to the French court when she wed the Duke d'Orleans where they were eagerly embraced by Parisian noblewomen. Up until the 1700s, the five inch heel was most popular amongst European women. However, when the French monarchy fell, so did the height of shoes. From then on heels rose and fell depending on current fashions and politics. (O'Keefe, 74)
The high heel returned to dominate fashion in the middle of the 1900s and in 1988 America's first heel factory opened, allowing for easier access and availability. However, the 1950's ushered in the era of the stiletto. O'Keefe says, "Of all the miracles of modern shoe technology, the stiletto may stand as the greatest." (O'Keefe, 120) The architecture is such that a women's weight is balanced on a heel the size of a pencil.

While high heels have remained popular, in the last half century they have been a controversial topic. Many second wave feminists rejected standards of "feminine beauty," denouncing what they saw as women, "being forced, by social and mass media representations controlled by men, to see themselves in fragments through male eyes." (Gamman, 95) High heels came under attack along with many other gendered aesthetic objects at this time. However, in the eighties high heels were reclaimed in the name of personal choice and women's empowerment. "Dressing up, grooming, and playing around with identity could not be regarded as a response to oppression or the 'male gaze' when sisters said they were doing it for themselves." (Gamman, 96)
It was at this time that women really began to conscientiously reclaim the "feminine" as a personal and even rebellious decision. Nancy Friday, author of The Power of Beauty, writes, "We do it for the image in the mirror, the reflection of ourselves as hot and in charge, an extraordinarily satisfying goal that we can live with more happily than with a man; who needs him?" (Friday, 466) Today the arguments surrounding high heels fluctuate depending on style and popularity.
Much of the intense debate around high heels is generated by the harmful effects of high heels and especially the stiletto. More and more studies emerge everyday with resounding voices saying that shoes are physically detrimental. Foot doctors say that continual use of high heels with narrow toe space can actually lead to foot deformities. A clinical professor of orthopedics, Michael J. Coughlin says, "The deformities that often develop after years of wearing high-fashion pumps are similar to foot problems that were formerly seen in Chinese women whose feet had been bound." (Okie in Benstock and Ferriss) Additionally, long time wear of high heels is also being linked to knee arthritis in women, and most recently, back problems.

Women receive 90% of foot surgeries performed in the United States.

Sarah Jessica Parker of Sex and the City says "You have to learn how to wear his (Manolo Blahnik) shoes – it doesn't happen overnight... I've destroyed my feet completely, but I don't care. What do you really need your feet for, anyway?"

While health issues may be the immediate issue of high heel detractors, another is mobility. "A feminine shoe imposes a new problem of grace and self consciousness on what otherwise would be a simple act of locomotion, and in this artful handicap lies its subjugation and supposed charm." (Gamman, 96) Whether nine inch heels preferred by strippers or three inch "kitten heels" being worn by teenage girls, they reduce mobility and physical ease to varying degrees.
The dangers are many; everything from side walk grating, stairs, slick floors, any speed faster than a leisure pace, any distance longer than a ten minute stroll, to the impossibility of crossing a lawn without sinking and being left to yank leg while balancing on the ball of the other sinking foot. High heels are the most challenging shoes one can wear if walking is the objective.
It is their paradox; heels are shoes that don't protect but harm, don't provide comfort but instead are more likely to be intensely uncomfortable, don't aid movement but restrict it. In dangerous situations, high heels hinder escape and have been denounced by feminist detractors for, "slowing them down when the need to run away from male violence and oppressors arose." (Gamman, 96)
However, mobility is not the point of high heels. In Allison Pearson's bestselling novel, I Don't Know How She Does, the protagonist is a professional woman who continually refers to the "armor" she wears into the office. When she has a particular need to impress, her suits get more expensive and her heels get higher. When asked how she can even walk she bluntly says, "Walking is not the point." (Pearson)
The question remains; what is the point of high heels? Their very existence and women's dedication to them is full of complicated innuendos, infused with meanings, drenched in politics and striking to the heart of what it is to be "feminine." High heels speak to women and society. They refuse to be considered just another accessory, but demand recognition of their complexity and power and feminine construction.
When wearing high heels, one cannot slouch or hang back. Linda O' Keefe, author of, Shoes: A Celebration of Pumps, Sandals, Slippers and More, writes, "Physically, it is impossible for a woman to cower in high heels. She is forced to take a stand, to strike a pose, because anatomically her center of gravity has been displaced forward." (O'Keefe, 71) This proactive stance, sexually enhanced posture, and added height provide psychological empowerment for the wearer and convey an autonomous and feminine message into society. Simon Doonan, creative director of Barney's in New York says "High heels create a level of authority." (Gamman, 98)
High heels infuse the wearer with a sense of power; more importantly feminine power, not an offshoot of some masculine aspect. Lee Wright, "points to the associations of the stiletto with symbols of 'liberation rather than subordination,' symbols that are 'progressive rather than retrogressive,' conveying 'rebellion and dominance'." (Kaite, 96) While men and masculinity also have an interesting shoe history that at times includes various heeled styles, today high heels are exclusively feminine. So often women in society draw upon masculine constructs and ideas of power, adopting them for their own instead of reclaiming the "feminine" in a powerful and authoritative way- but they do with high heels.
High heels belong to the traditional feminine realm but do not subordinate. They instead radiate dominance; perhaps in a subversive and gendered form, but nonetheless it is dominance and most importantly – a woman's dominance. Patricia Field, a Sex and the City stylist used stilettos to "symbolize the characters' sexual power, as well as their independence." (InStyle Magazine, 346)

"I can't wear flats; I always feel like I'm walking uphill." - Anonymous

Much of this power comes not only from the physical aspects such as height, posture and body inflections, but also from raw sex appeal. High heels are a traditional wardrobe staple of every vamp and streetwalker which makes sense since they cash in and use sexuality for their own purposes and as Gamman says, "It's hard not to be sexy in a pair of high heels." (Gamman, 98)
The high heel is the "zenith of the very feminine look," (Kaite, 96) and its contribution to the construction of feminine identity is blatant. Despite possible negative consequences, they have other physical effects on the wearer. Esquire writes, "They taper the toes. They arch the instep. They lift the calves. They tilt the fanny and bow the back and oil the hips and sashay the gait.... They make the foot look shorter and more precious and yet add the formidableness of extra height." (Friday, 463) They create the illusion of longer and more defined legs, more pronounced and curved breasts, and a rounder butt. High heels emphasize all the aspects that are considered to belong to the realm of women's physically sexual attributes.

According to Harper's Index, high heels
raise the buttocks as much as 25 %.

The alluring eroticism of women in high heels is recognized and even feared. In the United States' earlier history, "The Massachusetts colony passed a law: 'All women, whether virgins, maidens or widows, who...seduce or betray into matrimony any of His Majesty's male subjects by virtue of...high heel shoes, shall incur the penalty of the law now enforced against witchcraft.'" (Benstock & Ferriss, 10)
High heels, most effectively stilettos, embody complex paradoxes and social innuendos. There is inherent tension between sexuality and danger. They constantly revolve and play with the masculine/ feminine dichotomy. The "The high heel is a weapon...and also a phallic symbol. And at the same time that it cripples a woman, it makes her seem powerful. In heels, the woman can be evilly subdued – she can't run very fast, she's off balance, her feet probably hurt – but she's also taller, wearing a spiked thing that could be driven into a man's body: It's called a stiletto after all."

"Stiletto" means "thin-bladed knife" - Kaite, 96

Freudian theory says that shoes represent the female body and in dreams, they represent female genetalia . The "Shoe is symbolic of the vagina. Tension between the "active" and "passive" components of the shoe...It is an economic balance of two parts: a womblike enclosure and the phallic extremity." (Kaite, 97) These are "heels with the potential of piercing and penetrating, and thus have powerfully invasive qualities." (Kaite, 100)
With such meaning infused in every step a woman can take, it is no wonder that the shoe has become an object of fixation, obsession and love. In today's world of glitzy-glam consumerism and self-discovery, every accessory can be an attempt to encapsulate and define one's perfect self image. Ferriss and Benstock write that there is a "...satisfaction we take in having purchased a pair of shoes that 'is us,' that represents us... The fashionable dress of the Western world is one means whereby an always fragmentary self is glued together into a semblance of unified identity. Shoes serve as markers of gender, class, race, ethnicity, and even sexuality." (Ferriss & Benstock, 4)
Shoes have always denoted lifestyle and one's place both in the formal and informal sectors of society. As the famous Forrest Gump says, "There's an awful lot you can tell 'bout a person by their shoes --- Where they goin, where they been..." (Forrest Gump, 1994) In the case of high heels tend to say one of two things about a person, high class or sex worker.
Due to the sexual aesthetics and erotic accentuation of the body they are an ideal choice for sex workers. More importantly still is the many-layered sexual and fetishistic meanings infused into high heels. Feet and high heels are the number one most common sexual fetish. "The stiletto heel is a fundamental part of the contemporary pornographic code." (Kaite, 100) Let's face it, how often do we see a playboy bunny in sneakers?

"Ya makin' money Boys call ya Hell on high heels" - Motley Crue lyrics (2000)

In contrast, the other social realm in which high heels are pervasive is the upper class. Kaite says "The initial association between rank, wealth, and certain styles and fabrics is made: silk and the high heel are for the leisured classes, the bourgeois classes." (Kaite, 93) From Catherine de Medicis and the ladies of the French court to Manolo Blahnik's "limousine shoes," high heels proclaim wealth and status.
On the other hand, " 'Sensible shoes'- from moccasins to work boots- identify the wearer as a member of the laboring classes, feet planted firmly on the ground." (Benstock & Ferriss) In sensible shoes one can plow a field, pave a road or simply walk as a means of transportation. In heels one is clearly going "somewhere" in both the literal and metaphorical sense.
Since their Venetian birth, high heels have been markers of the privileged. In the sixteenth century, both men and women of the leisure class wore heeled shoes as high as thirty inches. In order to walk a servant on each side supported them. Tamsin Blanchard, author of The Shoe: Best Foot Forward, speaks of the similarities of foot binding and high heels. For like the high heeled Venetians, Chinese women could hardly be expected to do much but recline in luxury on their ideally sized three inch bound feet.
When looking at high heels and the upper class connotation of today she says, "A similar psychology of wealth and status may still be operating, the richer you are, the higher the heels, and the more likely it is that you only have to walk a few short, painful steps from you limo to your destination." (Tamsin, 11) Today this upper class connotation remains, after all, "Women may 'wear' slippers, 'put on' sneakers and 'slip into' loafers, but they 'dress' in high heels." (O'Keefe, 72)
Another important factor speaking to the nuances of class and femininity is foot size. With 88 percent of surveyed women wearing shoes that are too small, there is clearly a remaining obsession with small feet. The high heel tapers the toes and arches the foot giving the appearance not only of eroticized curled toes but also the illusion of being small and delicate.
Perhaps the woman with the feet most renowned for their small size is the fabled Cinderella. Even though she had been delegated to a servant's position, the prince of the kingdom fell in love with her at the ball. However, when she fled at midnight she left behind one impossibly small glass slipper. The prince then searched his kingdom for the woman whose feet were small enough to fit the slipper. He was in essence looking for the most refined, most feminine woman in the kingdom- and all of this from the size of her feet.
Toomey wrote that the heel is "slivered to the slimmest shapes to make us all look as dainty and delicate underfoot as a Cinderella." (Kaite, 96) Modern women still go to great lengths in pursuit of their Cinderella charm. A study by the American Orthopedic Foot and Ankle society estimates that the average woman has size 8 wide feet, "but the best-selling women's shoe size is 7 ½ medium, suggesting that the average hobbling around in shoes that are both too short and too narrow." (Friday, 465)
With so many gendered implications, it is clear that patriarchal values still permeate society dividing men and women into masculine and feminine worlds and furthermore into hierarchal categories. But the end result does not have to be submission or devaluation. Women, and others, can refuse degrading victimization and reclaim that which is ours both within and without overarching systems.

"How tall am I?
Honey, with hair, heels and attitude I'm through this damned roof."

- RuPaul (O'Keefe, 125)

In wearing high heels women can choose to empower themselves – yourselves – ourselves – myself and own the power surrounding these dangerous, sexual, authoritative, proactive gendered objects- high heels. Women are often looked at skeptically for certain behavior such as donning sexy stilettos, as if they certainly don't really want to wear those shoes but perhaps have just mistaken their own desires for misogynistic beauty standards and imposed systemic values.
The truth of the matter is that we all do live in this system, is it possible to ever disengage our desires from our experience or infused cultural innuendos in and of the body? Perhaps yes, perhaps no; but the decision to wear high heels is one way to rebel within a system. Women who wear these tall heel it because they like to, for their own pleasure. Whether they like the erotic connotations, excitement, height, delicate structures, dangerous points, phallic penetrative qualities, royal history, haughty independence, aesthetic beauty or a confusing combination of all of that and more, women who love high heels do so of their own volition and desire.
Manolo Blahnik, the "high priest of high heels" (Benstock & Ferriss) sums up the patronizing idea that women should be pitied for their chose and love of high heels. He was once asked if he, "ever felt sorry for all those women teetering through their lives on the spikiest of high-heeled shoes," to which he responded, "Oh, my God, how could I feel sorry for them? Sorry. Sorry for who? They love it." (Specter, 388)



Continuing conversation
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06/22/2005, from a Reader on the Web

I am a m2f crossdresser who is totally enthralled with high heels. They represent the ultimate in feminine sexuality to me. When I slide into a pair, they absolutely make the transition from Paul to Lexy more than any other single item. I totally love wearing them, and I feel VERY sexy in them. Paul


Additional comments made prior to 2007
I think its amazing that Paul has the courage to come out and say who he is and that he loves being himself. Many people look down on our transgender or homosexual parts of society but they are just like the rest of us, people. Who is society to judge who people are and what they should do when no one has ever been able to give me a decent definition of normal. Plus, if you are a woman and haven't been shopping with a "gay" guy your missing out. They ar e the most honest and fun people, especially when it comes to clothes ... Katie, 11 December 2007



I read somewhere (but I cannot find the book) that the origin of high heels goes back to caveman days when groups of cavemen raided other cave dweller's areas, took their goods and took it in turns to pack rape the women. While the men were waiting their turn (to rape) they observed that as the women being raped achieved orgasm (These were earthy times) they pointed their feet uncontrollably as part of the orgasmic response (this occurs even today although current positions may make observation of this phenomena difficult) . This image was burned into mens brains over the years and so today the real reason why women wear high heeels is put their feet into this orgasmic position and raise the (sexual) interest of men. I would be interested if anyone el;se has also read this and can indicate where is can be found ... Peter Bate, 24 December 2007


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This article has brought together many biased understandings

First: Let me declare I'm a male with years of experience in wearing the 4"+ high stiletto pumps I have found pleasingly attractive and comfortable. I'm also in a constant quest to find more of these heels, because my desire to wear them in my younger years was socially denied - leaving my desires unfulfilled. This caused me into becoming secretively deceitful to get any short term satisfaction to wear any pairs of heels in open solitude or behind closed doors as I schemed or randomly came upon opportunities, until I was able to live on my own. I knew I wanted to wear this style of footwear and no social edict, discipline, or attitude could change or abolish my desire. My simple desire to wear high heels had become an obsession, which society has so conveniently labeled for its purpose - a fetish as it intended to degrade this natural human characteristic when they are males.

Now, as far as the claims and thoughts of high heels being only feminine procurements are obviously the results from the focused promotions of the social attitude that deemed only women had the styling sense and proclivity to wear them. Many studies and speculative reasoning that seem viable have contributed to reinforced this feminine claim, but these have been biased according to the popular social understandings and attitudes of our present fashion dictations. Originally, nature afforded each person with the ability to know what and how they wanted to adorn their appearance as self-expressions. With the emergence of society and status systems, this personal choice was taken away as an individual right and used by those of power and wealth to make class, gender, and role distinctions to create a control of sorts. This practice became the traditional way civilizations operates. Violating any natural laws have consequences. By trying to control what people wear, an atmosphere of enslavement and bullying was created. Now, if you don't follow the standards of dress that are based on stereotyping, some people tend to think you are perverted and trying to identify as or with other genders when all you are actually doing is being who you are as nature intended the idea of appareling to function.

Being bullied or enslaved in most capacities has received many words of opposition and for abolishment, but the practice of controlling what each person wears continues at some level or attitude. There are places and times for certain attire to be worn for safety, survival, and/or comradery concerns, however, when these temporary conditions no longer apply, people automatically have their freedom to choose what they wear.

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Where is your reference list please. This has some good some in I'd like to use for my essay. Especially the Gamman quotes.

anonymous's picture

High Heels

As a 64-year-old woman, I came of age and to empowerment in the 1960's, and I am appalled by the hideous, grotesque shoes now in fashion. Even MORE so am I appalled that they are selling and that young women have NO apparent idea of how they are selling out on the hard-won advancements made by the women's movement by MY generation. I will admit to wearing 'modest' heels in my younger years until developing an excruciating neuroma as a result of these shoes. I will also admit to my own desire to wear heels as a young teenager and to the terrible pain my 2" SPIKES caused me standing in New York City subway trains for an hour on the ride all the way home from Manhattan to Brooklyn. It was the Transit strike in NYC in the mid 1980's that brought New York women to sanity when they donned their sneakers in order to WALK to work.

Because of the crippling effects of these FASHION shoes on my feet, I had to abandon them, have special orthotics made and start wearing SENSIBLE shoes like the ones my mother always wore. What a revelation! I could walk in comfort and REALLY be empowered. EMPOWERED by the absence of pain and EMPOWERED by the ability to walk as nature intended me to walk and not like a teetering, tottering fool. I could finally abandon idiotic skirts and dresses too which, if you think about it, really make no sense at all. Why should women walk about with their legs dangling out, spending huge amounts of money on hosiery that rips on the first wearing, when a pair of trousers is so reasonable and sleek and comfortable? But then again...MY generation tossed our girdles and garters, at least in exchange for pantyhose, while young women now covet SPANX and garters and all that crap AGAIN! And if that is not going backwards and giving up our freedom to be comfortable and naturally beautiful, then I don't know ANYTHING anymore!

I have a man in my life who is a high-heel fetishist, and although I adore this man, his delight in these monstrosities he calls shoes will never cease to bewilder me. He UNDERSTANDS my political objections, and my protests that these shoes are torture devices that cripple women, and yet...he gets so turned on by them. WHY???????? What bizarre aberration in the male brain would turn these grotesque THINGS into objects that increase libido???? And even MORE bizarre to me is the women who willingly are co-opted by this stuff. I am not anti-femininity (REAL femininity and not artifice), and I am not anti-sexuality. But there are times when I wonder if a BURKA is not a better alternative than parading oneself around looking like a cheap whore! I suppose that is pretty extreme, but the point that I am making is that all these sexual 'contrivances' which abound in our culture are not only an indication of our alienation from our REAL natures which ARE sexual and sensuous WITHOUT artifice, but are a way or perpetuating this disconnect within ourselves. There isn't much that we as women can do about the male brain and how it may be wired, but at least we don't have to PUNISH ourselves with this disconnect as well. If we refused to buy and wear these torture devices then they'd go away, the shoe fetishism would go away, and maybe people could be more REAL and a lot happier.

I thought in the 1970's that a real revolution was taking place for women. I guess I was wrong and that we dinosaurs from that era will just have to fade away and take our ideals with us. When a woman can feel beautiful and sexy and desirable in a pair of sneakers or clogs or Birkenstocks... well, THEN she is free and her feet won't hurt and her back won't ache and her calf muscles won't become shortened and she won't get plantar faciitis and she won't have fantasies of shoving her heels into some poor hapless fellow who has the misfortune to be attracted to her shoes instead of to her soul!!!!!!

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High Heels - 4 inches closer to heaven

Maybe women wear high heels when they dress up to let the men know they are ready to be carried over the threshold should the opportunity arise.

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I don't think it's fair to

I don't think it's fair to assume that women wear high heels solely to pleasure a man and, as you insinuate, seduce him into marriage.

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high heels betray women

I've long just assumed from logic that women were encouraged to wear high heels so they couldn't escape rape.

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Great Article, but I have a question

i really enjoyed this article and love me heels too! i'm doing a paper for my Cultural Theory class and i was just wondering what book you were quoting Lorraine Gamman from? I'd love to be able to read that book in conjunction with this paper.

Anonymous's picture

I like seeing women in high

I like seeing women in high heels, whatever the game, makes me think of them as sexual and powerful, because they scare me sometimes when they are sexual, and i also see them as prey, less able to reject my advances.. and around and around we go.

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i too love high heels. wore them to work and on the streets of san francisco for years. then tennis shoes came into play; so at least i could put on the heels once i arrived at work. after many years i developed acute soreness in my ankles whenever i wore flats. that was because of wearing the stilletos all the time and switching to tennis shoes. after many xrays, cortesone shots and an mri, the doctors still couldn't find anything - the pain was still there and they finally labeled it "tendonitis" - girls, be careful wearing those high heels all the time - eventually you'll have to put on some flats and find it hard to walk in them!

roxanne's picture

work boots trump high heels

I don't find any advantage in the workplace wearing high heels or in the dating world either. For what ever reason a heavy leather boot in black gets respect. A high heel gives you trouble from men. Women also seem to dislike it - even though often they are also wearing heels - at social gatherings. You're instantly labled: "woman" "high maintainance" "useless" "stupid" "easy" - this might be fine for the high society women whoes hubbies seek other company while they sleep on ivory pillows but for women who are allready understood to be talented heels represent wasted potential in the eyes of men and women alike. For whatever reason in work boots guys buy me drinks and in heels I ususally just get rude advances. go figure.

Julie's picture

high heeled shoes

I really liked your comment about large black boots. Go girl! We do not need to be seen as constantly in a state of sexual arousal in order to be taken seriously. High heels are the politics of power and fear; boots are the politics of true talent and worth - sex is something else.
While most men will be drawn by the sight of a woman in high heels, the men which interest me are the ones who respect my abilities, my mind and my achievements.
Also I am a foot health practitioner and have a wonder and facination for the incredible foot! Leonardo de Vinci called the foot the most amazing machine in the universe!
I foot without corns, calus or deformation is a beautiful thing. A foot twisted broken and bruised and covered in hard red lumps is an ugly thing and a desecration of human loveliness.
Chinese women who wrapped their feet found that the smell of their rotting feet was offensive. This article is well worth a read for anyone who thinks that Chinese foot wrapping was just a female pursuit of beauty.

Fish's picture

Wow - Loved the article

Thank you so much for bringing all these insights about heels and the psychology behind them. I explore female sexuality for few years now, And it gave me some insights I couldn't find in other places which inrigued me.

Phil's picture

I Love high heels too

I have been a closet crossdresser since I was eight but love the high heel wearing bit the best. I have tried to wonder why I love them so much, and over the years I have been researching to know more and why. I now believe that I was a women in a past life and this was verified by a medium who told me that I was once a women teacher in devon.
In the animal kingdom its mostly the male who has all the colourful skin designs or feathers to attract the female and in our past men used to wear heels wigs and makeup. Perhaps its a cycle thing. Maybe one day men will wear heels and women flat shoes time will tell.
Anyway if something makes you feel good and its hurting knowone then enjoy it.

Sundari's picture

I love this so much!

Right now, I am wearing this fab black stilleto with silver 4" heels. Yes, they are quite painful to walk in but it is all worth it, as I walk, I see men gawk and women gaze in envy on how I can pull it off, I have a size 5 foot and I love it! I love this web page!

Janet Raye Pletcher's picture

I love my stilletos

I am a 5 foot 3 inch tall 53 year old woman who has worn heels for more than thirty years with very little foot pain. I love the look when I wear skirts and dresses, and need to dress up for my job as an executive secretary. Maybe I am fortunate to be able to wear then without any apparent problems.

Anonymous's picture

When Will I Begin?

I totally <3 high heels. I'm a guy and I wish I had the courage, and the small feet, to wear them!

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Dude I'm a guy and I'm 13 and

Dude I'm a guy and I'm 13 and I love high heels and I wear them when nobody is around but I do spend easily $1000 a month on heels

Bernard A O&#039;Reilly's picture

4 inch heels: closer to heaven

It is a mystery why so many women love wearing high heels and so many men love it when they do so. I suspect the key to understanding this is that, in a male dominated world, high heels give women the illusion of power while crippling them in a way that reassures men that they are the ones in control. I doubt if women would bother wearing high heels if they truly felt that they were meeting men on equal terms. A woman who is truly independent is a woman who can "stand on her own two feet". She does not the approval of a man. This is one reason why I suspect that men enjoy seeing a woman choose to wear high heels. As they see it by making that choice a woman becomes complicit in a practice that is intended to cripple her for the amusement of men. When wearing high heels women are able to feel goos about themselves because of the added height they gain. They fail to understand the loss of status that results. By wearing high heels a woman signals to a man "You are the boss. It is your approval I must earn." Many women say they like them because they give them the sense of confidence that comes from feeling taller thus enabling them to look men in the eye. But why is it necessary to be able to look men in the eye? For their part, men are quite happy to pay lip service to the idea that women are empowered by high heels because this encourages women to wear them. At some level, for many men much of the delight of seeing a woman wearing high heels is the knowledge that she has chosen to gain a sense of self-esteem and power from by shoes that cripple her and thereby draw attention to her subordinate status. I wonder how many women would wear them if they realised that by doing so they are hobbled in a way that men find attractive.

Anonymous's picture

New Love

I can't believe I'm 60 years young and am now just learning to love shoes! And when I say shoes, I'm talking CFM shoes! The higher the better. I just bought the most wonderfully high black heels and am wearing them to a party to celebrate the engagement of my son. I hope that won't be inappropriate

Debby Flickinger's picture

High-Heeedl shoes


I agree and you can almost tell an age of a woman. Meaning, you do not see any or many eighty year old women in stilettos.

Anonymous's picture

Great article. I'm doing a

Great article. I'm doing a research paper on high heels for my English class, and this article gave me a lot of new information, as well as backing up what I had already found out. Extremely helpful.

ana's picture

i alweys wos interested were

i alweys wos interested were this gravity to high heels comes from. your article is giving lots of information about historical and psichological sides. i agree, high heels are very dangerous game. it shows very clearly todays lifes values. what i mean, is unfortunately from ouer past historical expirience we picked out and adopted most of the unnatural things and atitudes (high heels are just one of them). they become auer popular values today. unnatural way of life alweys daying out. that's bitter logic. we are all different with defferent attitudes and taste, but there is one thing we've got the same-it is ouer free will of choice. but thise never means that every choice is good. thise only means, that nature never forces you to make right choices, it just shows what is good for you and what is bad for you by showing you outcomes. making choices are up to you whether you will wear high heels or low heels... its all about what you are after in your life. high heels are like medicine, it cane help you some times,but exceeded dose and erroneous times can even kill you. they carry messige of sexuality and dominancy whether we whant it or not. are those messiges alweys appropriate for people around us? or is it us, alweys selfishly whanting to be sexually atractive? but why do we need it whith everyone around us? is it not this messige only for somone you love? your husbend? your lover? carefullness is needed, when we are giving out messiges whether it's verbal, ouer body language or ouer appearance for not to destroy natural balance in ouer relationships with sexuall partners, with pamily, with friends and with children... sorry for long comment, but this excitement comes from your article. thank you for all that really helpfull information. with regards

Lucia's picture

i hate high heels

I hate high heels. They are uncomfortable, my husband thinks they look ugly, and they make a woman look 'sexy' instead of sweet and innocent. I understand if other woman want to wear them thats their choice , but please, at least buy your size. so many women go to the foot doctors with bunions and corns from high heels. Having a 4.5 inch wide (and size 8 foot), i find it very difficult to find a comfy pair of shoes, and high heels? well, lets just say i appreciate my ability to walk, and i wont comprimise by wearing them.

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Anonymous's picture

Great article thank you

Great article thank you

Anonymous's picture

This is a fabulous article:

This is a fabulous article: very well written, very accurate, and it shows all different sides of the heel.
I love wearing high heels, and in fact, I wear them so often that my legs ache when I take them off. For me, the heel represents both an important note in stature and power, as well as they add some sex to every day life.
Bravo on the well written article,
and bravo to HEELS!