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i apologise for posting this so late but imy computer was spazzing and well now i can.

the one thing about kate borenstein that really struck me was when she said 'do whatever it takes, to make this life worth living... just, dont be mean to anyone' - basically, she said that we should/could do anything at all to find a reason to stay alive. be it self harm, be it escaping be it anything, if it gives us reason to stay alive, its worth it.

and this made me think - what would make my life worth living? and, is it worth it to keep searching, pushing, struggling to find that one thing?

i love that kate is so comfortable with  the fact that she is constantly reinventing herself, because, lets be honest, all of us are. we might not be defining and redefining our gender and sexuality but we're all changing. every day. and with that change in thought, opinion or emotion, we're constantly reinventing ourselves. and that change is growth, it doesnt need to be positive or negative. theres no need to hide it or mask it. we can still be who we are whilst we change. there can be solidity and unity of character expressed through fluctualtion and fragmentation.

i liked the fact taht the talk was at villanova. it was comfortable despite that. the only time my mind woke up and realised that we werent at bryn mawr was when she asked how any people in the audience were gender variant and only a few hands went up. i think that this wasnt because they werent gender variant people in the audience but maybe because not as many people were comfortable in their gender/sexuality. i thanked bryn mawr a little at this moment, because it made me appreciate the openess and comfort that is readily available at bmc.

all in all, i really enjoyed her talk. i think there were times when she tried too hard to get a message across/to connect with the audience and that at these times her message got dissolved in her effort. however, the rest of her performance was empowering and striking enough that it could afford to lose that tiny bit.