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I thought that Felice Picano's story of his life and work formed such an interesting juxtaposition to Kimmel's thinking about "masculinity as homophobia." Some things he said that will stay w/ me (and I record here to be sure that they do!):

• "I was a victim of the queer studies movement" (which may get the history
  wrong, not recognizing, for instance, the illegality of earlier gay behaviors:
  "content is context").
• "I decided to be who I was for the rest of my life."
• "Monogamy never interested me. Heterosexual marriage is a catastrophe"
  (="a failed business partnership, plus all those health costs!")
• "Since Act Up Went Down, there has been no other issue" (but gay marriage).
• "W.H. Auden said, 'education is the class system in America.'
  It's how we sort ourselves, and how we recognize class."
  (We had some interesting discussion about this: whether our educational system can operate
  as a means for individuals to rise in class stature, while perpetuating the already existing system.)
• "Where you went to school comes in strangely handy; it allows people to place you."
• "I've devoted my life to exposing various lies about how we actually live, as opposed to the way we say we do."
• "All our lives, we are figuring out what the rules are, and then how to get around them."
• "Gay sex was more hidden, but more widespread, before the sexual revolution:
  'I have more sex before....doing it on the down-low.'"
• Before the sexual revolution, sexual behavior did not constitute a sexual identity.
  The behavior was acceptable in part because no identity followed from it.
• "I have a crackpot theory of sexuality, with three levels: physical, social, and psychological.
  (Some one who is physically homosexual, for example, might also be heterosociable.)
  This will be useful to know when you start dating."
• "Cultural perceptions of maleness are a track. I want to show you where some of the tracks are. I got off the train."
• "Coming out is a process: it doesn't happen @ one time; there are different closets. Writer's block is about being in a closet."
• "We have to limit ourselves in order to live. And we have to learn when to step out" (think of the amoeba's 'pseudopodia').
• Masculinity is separable from sexuality: "to 'man up' is to follow a code of ethics"; it doesn't have anything to do with who you sleep with.
• Overheard in conversation: "He was kissing her all day long; that was so gay" (W-H-A-T??)