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Your mode of expression allows you to feel/ see/ hear that an identity exist. Because identities are formed by how we perceive ourselves, there is no identity that lies beyond our mode of expression.

Both our modes of expression and our identities are developed during interactions with another human being and thus are bound together (with one another and with the other person) and activated when we meet that person again, not just physically but also when we maintain an inner conversation with that person as our imagined partner.

Because our identities are inherently multi-faceted and situationally grounded, "choosing an identity" by speaking in a particular way implies a fluid process of identity negotiation in which we opens ourselves to numerous possibilities of selves, instead of an affirmative gesture confirming that we are a certain kind of person.