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I would say start new relationships is the hardest part for me though I found choosing a college is also a frustrating yet happy process(I gotta choose between a great big public school located in west and a great small private school located in east). Besides the fact that for a freshmen, college experience is equally new to everyone, I have an extra challange, I study and live in a new country. People around me now are different, including classmates, friends, teachers, etc. Culture aroung me is also different. What people think is also different. From environment to food, from ideas to customes, they are all different. But coming to a new country means to exposure yourself to new experiences. I think I've learned a lot during this process and I appreciated I chose to finish my undergraduate degree in America. Despite all the good news, I found that it's really hard there if there's no one who can really understand you from your point of view(more focused on the demographic and culture reasons why I think in this or in that way); you will feel isolate and lonely sometimes. The feeling is like you've losted your root/essence. I've experienced that kind of feeling for a few weeks, but luckily, I found some friends who can really understand me there(including both Americans and international students)! Being aboard all by myself, even though it's hard, but after I've went through this process, I will find all the things I've done and all the relationships I've had were built up all by myself. And thats the time to feel the feeling of accomplishment. Due to the language and culture affections, I've found it's more difficult to find good friends here in America than in China. Also I've noticed some Americans does not like to become friends with international students. So the choices of friends become less and plus there are certain culture differences that always exist between international students and domestic students, so the friends range become even smaller. I think that's why I found starting new relationships here are more difficult. But I believe as time goes by, I will get more used to the environment and have more friends:D